Warning signs that you are in an abusive relationship
1. He’s pushy and aggressive
He claims almost immediately after meeting you, "I've never felt loved like this before by anyone." putting pressure on you for an exclusive commitment sooner than required.
2. He’s constantly jealous
He is excessively possessive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.
3. He's controlling.
He interrogates you intensely about who you talked to and where you were, checks your phone calls/ text messages, checks mileage on the car, keeps all the money or asks for receipts, and insists you ask for permission to go anywhere or do anything.
4. He has very unrealistic expectations.
He expects perfection from you and for you to meet his every need.
5. He isolates you
He does everything to cut you off from your family & friends, deprives you of a phone or car, or tries to prevent you from holding a job.
6. He blames others for his own mistakes.
The boss, family, you — it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong. The victim in him is too strong.
7. He makes everyone else responsible for their feelings.
The abuser says, "You make me angry" instead of "I'm angry." "I wouldn't get so pissed off if you wouldn't...typical sign of an abuser.
8. He's hypersensitive.
He's easily insulted, easily pissed off and will often crib about injustices meted out by life & others.
9. He's cruel to animals and children.
He kills or punishes animals brutally. He also may expect children to do things beyond their ability or tease them until they cry.
10. Sex with him is not about love & tenderness
He uses playful force inside the bedroom, enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will; he finds the idea of rape exciting. He intimidates, manipulates or forces you to engage in unwanted sex acts.
11. Verbal abuse abounds
He constantly criticizes you or says cruel things. He curses and calls you ugly names & uses cuss words often. He devalues you .He uses vulnerable points about your past or current life against you.
12. He’s an MCP
He expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.
13. He has sudden mood swings.
He switches from loving to angry in a matter of minutes, leaving you baffled.
14. He has a past of battering women
He admits to hitting women in the past, but states that they or the situation brought it on- that it wasn’t his fault.
15. He threatens violence, at the drop of a hat
He makes statements such as, "I'll break your neck," but then dismisses it with "I really didn't mean it."
1. He’s pushy and aggressive
He claims almost immediately after meeting you, "I've never felt loved like this before by anyone." putting pressure on you for an exclusive commitment sooner than required.
2. He’s constantly jealous
He is excessively possessive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.
3. He's controlling.
He interrogates you intensely about who you talked to and where you were, checks your phone calls/ text messages, checks mileage on the car, keeps all the money or asks for receipts, and insists you ask for permission to go anywhere or do anything.
4. He has very unrealistic expectations.
He expects perfection from you and for you to meet his every need.
5. He isolates you
He does everything to cut you off from your family & friends, deprives you of a phone or car, or tries to prevent you from holding a job.
6. He blames others for his own mistakes.
The boss, family, you — it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong. The victim in him is too strong.
7. He makes everyone else responsible for their feelings.
The abuser says, "You make me angry" instead of "I'm angry." "I wouldn't get so pissed off if you wouldn't...typical sign of an abuser.
8. He's hypersensitive.
He's easily insulted, easily pissed off and will often crib about injustices meted out by life & others.
9. He's cruel to animals and children.
He kills or punishes animals brutally. He also may expect children to do things beyond their ability or tease them until they cry.
10. Sex with him is not about love & tenderness
He uses playful force inside the bedroom, enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will; he finds the idea of rape exciting. He intimidates, manipulates or forces you to engage in unwanted sex acts.
11. Verbal abuse abounds
He constantly criticizes you or says cruel things. He curses and calls you ugly names & uses cuss words often. He devalues you .He uses vulnerable points about your past or current life against you.
12. He’s an MCP
He expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.
13. He has sudden mood swings.
He switches from loving to angry in a matter of minutes, leaving you baffled.
14. He has a past of battering women
He admits to hitting women in the past, but states that they or the situation brought it on- that it wasn’t his fault.
15. He threatens violence, at the drop of a hat
He makes statements such as, "I'll break your neck," but then dismisses it with "I really didn't mean it."
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